GOD NEVER PROMISED HONEY AND MILK WITHOUT TILLING THE GROUND.
The sharpest weapon we have against anxiety, negativity and stress is our total submission to GOD.
Recently, so much has been postponed, closed, or cancelled. But not everything.
Love has not been postponed, closed, or cancelled.
Hope has not been postponed, closed, or cancelled.
Self-care has not been postponed, closed, or cancelled.
Right now, is an opportunity to invest… in the little things that matter most.
The human experience is filled with love, passion, creativity, joy, connection, compassion, laughter…and the taste of chocolate cake. But because we as human beings learn, evolve, and grow through life’s ups and downs, our experience also includes plenty of difficult situations and seasons that round us out. The promise of the things GOD gave for free are still free and available.
We have all been praying to GOD to save south Africa. We have called for prayer sessions when we as a people can’t stand each other, when the poor are starving, and the rich are dying from eating too much. When the police and the military that we entrust with our safety have turned us into their corona virus – they see the virus in the people because there training, might and armaments were created to fight a physical enemy, but corona fights us on and in a different realm – the spiritual realm. Physically, you can wear your mask and practise social distance, but until you put on your spiritual armour you will lose.
The key right now is to not let life’s difficulties get the best of you, but LET GOD BE IN CONTROL.
Think about the most gut-wrenching situations you have endured in your past. Doing so likely brings up some uncomfortable feelings. And the associated attachments you have may stir anxiety, anger, or sadness. This is a predicament many of us face.
Now imagine how you would feel if you were able to get over these feelings. By “get over” I mean no longer suffering over something that cannot be controlled. I know this is possible because I have both personally come to peace with extremely difficult, heart-breaking, uncontrollable situations in our past, and I have witnessed hundreds of my clients and friends do the same.
So, what is the secret?
There is not a one-size-fits-all answer, but all of the possible answers start with…
Releasing Your Judgments
The truth is, it is impossible to get over a difficult situation—to let it go—if you are still obsessively judging it and comparing it to something else. Let us revisit one specific gut-wrenching situation from your past again—choose one that still stirs negative emotions. And then ask yourself, how it ended.
We all run to God in hard times, and our God never fails, but HE never comes in the ways that we expect HIM. God will make you strong in three ways:
- Through RESISTANCE -Just like weight training, HE will make you strong by putting mountains in front of, and by pushing them and going through them, you build your strength.
- Through RELEASE – Letting go. You need to know when and what you must let go in and out of your life. We get strong by only holding to what matters to us.
- Through HOLDING – By not giving up. Power of persistence.
I can see you raising your hand and asking a very valid question – “How do I know when to do which?”. Good question, that will depend with your relationship with the holy ghost.
If you caught yourself thinking “yes” to one or more of those questions, then what is prolonging your suffering and preventing you from getting over it is judgment. Your judgments about what “should have happened” continues to postpone the love, hope, and self-care you know you are capable of practicing.
Now you may be thinking, “What happened was unbelievably horrible! I can’t conceive of ever getting over it!” But releasing your judgment does not mean you’re pleased with what happened, or that you support it, but rather that you are eliminating the negative burden you are carrying by perpetually judging it. Releasing or letting go simply means you are LETTING GOD.
When you let go of your negative judgments, you automatically replace the victim mentality with acceptance and presence. And acceptance and presence together will free your mind and move you forward. Only when your mind is free, it is when you are one with GOD.
This very same principle applies to our present challenges with COVID-19, especially for those of us who are not ill.
When we think better about our circumstances, we live better despite them.
And there is no reason to postpone. Now is the time to practice being more mindful of your judgments and how to respond to life. Of course, that is much easier said than done. Mindfulness as a daily ritual is the ultimate challenge. It is a way of living, of being, of seeing, of tapping into the full power of your humanity, without judgment.
At its core, mindfulness is…
- Being aware of what is happening in the present moment without wishing it were different
- Enjoying each pleasant experience without holding on when it changes (which it will)
- Being with each unpleasant experience without fearing it will always be this way (which it will not)
Let Each Moment Entice You
Above all, what you need to remember is that where you are and what you are doing at any given moment is essential. Do not be asking GOD to take it away but ask for strength to endure.
Because it is the only moment guaranteed to you.
You are not on your way somewhere else.
You are not progressing to a more important time or place.
The present is not just a stepping-stone—it is the ultimate destination.
This moment is where your greatest opportunity lies.
This moment is your life!
It might seem obvious, but we forget more often than we would like to admit.
All day, every day, many of us feel like the present is not enough—like our life right now simply is not worthy of our full presence. And because of this, we judge it harshly and miss out on most of life’s present beauty.
But what if we did the opposite?
What if we accepted this moment—no matter how imperfect—as exactly enough?
What if we accepted the ‘bad’ and the good, the let downs and the lessons, the heart-wrenching with the interesting, the anxiety with the opportunity, as part of a package deal that this moment alone is offering us?
What if we paused right now, and saw everything with perfect clarity?
Keep thinking about it…
Would we live more meaningful and memorable in the days and weeks ahead?
Would we have more beautiful memories to cherish and share?
I think we would.
And thus, I think now is the best time to practice.
Are you ready for a challenge?
It takes roughly 60 days to form a new habit. So, for the next eight weeks, wake up every morning and practice being less judgmental and more mindful—practice looking at the bright side of your life—and you will rewire your brain.
Will you accept this challenge?
Did this post resonate with you today?
If you are complaining of bad this day was, try missing one.
I would love to hear from YOU.
Inner Coach Steve M.